Chocolate Cake and Friendship
When you bake a birthday cake for a dear old friend, it can be incredibly stressful thinking up a recipe to make. You know they’ll be happy with anything, but without strict guidelines on what you can make, you find yourself either over the moon, or like me overwhelmed by the possibilities. One of our oldest friends had his birthday on Sunday and we threw him a very small party. Just a quiet BBQ with all our kids and definitely not one of those glamorous luncheons you see on blogs and party planning sites. Just food and sodas and lots of fun watching the little ones playing on the swing and shooting hoop.
What I know from spending 20 years hanging out together, is that Mick loves a good mud cake. Who doesn’t, right? Super fudgy rich cake that renders you incapable of getting up from the table for at least an hour after having the tiniest sliver. It’s heaven on a plate. Obviously making a regular milk chocolate mud cake was not going to cut it though. I find it rather difficult to just make a basic cake, so I thought about all the flavours I could add in there; orange, peppermint, even cookies and cream. But the more I thought about it, the more I decided I wanted someone very smooth, and something friends would share.
I’ve been very fortunate to have so many great friends in my life, and it got me thinking about the kinds of sweets that friends eat together, and memories of times spent hanging out and sharing a meal, or tea with friends. One of my most treasured friendships is one from high school. Yay and I have been friends since I was 15, and although we have moved countries, had families, and businesses and all kinds of craziness, we have been in each others lives for good. It’s an easy friendship. One that doesn’t demand attention. One that sees us just as comfortable holding each others kids as much as our own. I was there right after her first son was born. She was the first one to visit me when I opened my cake shop, and we still sit up till 3am eating Top Deck chocolate and endless cups of tea when we stay over. We laugh, and unburden ourselves onto each other, and travel hours just to share an one hour long coffee break. We order the same pasta dish as each other in every Italian restaurant, and fight fiercely over who picks up the tab. She’s the smartest person I know, and yet somehow you never feel inferior or left behind. Yay is just the s#*t!
I realised immediately that a Top Deck cake is the perfect cake to symbolise friendship. It’s not fussy, it’s not overpowering, it’s just calming and well, kind of like a hug. So here’s to friendships, may the ones you choose to surround yourself with make you stronger, sooth you, and help you to be a better human.
Recipe and video below.